Memory care offers an incredible lifestyle for older adults living with dementia. However, when you’re visiting a parent with dementia, it’s easy to feel a little overwhelmed. This is perfectly natural, but there’s no need to worry. With some preparation and professional support, you can keep strengthening your bond with your loved one.
Some conversation starts when visiting a parent with dementia include:
- Reminiscing about the past
- Simple and direct questions
- Engaging the senses
- Discussing current events
- Sharing personal updates
If you ever feel overwhelmed, contact our team at The Grande at Creve Coeur and let us help.
Reminiscing About the Past
One effective way to connect is by reminiscing about the past. Don’t use language like “Do you remember….?” as they force your loved one to try and recall specific memories. Instead, try to ask questions like:
- “Tell me about the time you visited the countryside.”
- “What was your favorite family tradition growing up?”
- “What was your childhood home like?”
Discussing family traditions or childhood memories sparks recognition and joy. If needed, you can bring along old photo albums or family heirlooms—the visual aids serve as cues for recollection.
Simple and Direct Questions
Communicating through simple and direct questions can be comforting for your loved one. Questions that require straightforward answers help in creating a safe and relaxed environment. Consider asking about music, food, or even the weather.
Some simple conversation starters include::
- “Would you like to listen to some music?”
- “Do you enjoy sunshine more, or the sound of rain?”
- “Is there a meal you particularly like?”
Keep your tone gentle and warm to keep your loved one at ease. By focusing on the present, you allow them to express themselves without pressure. These small interactions nurture your relationship to help your loved one feel supported and understood.
Engaging the Senses
Engaging your loved one’s senses can evoke powerful emotions and memories. Sensory activities trigger the memory-related parts of the brain and provide comfort and joy. For example, bring a familiar scent like lavender or a fabric from home to your visit, and let your loved one interact with it.
You might say things like:
- “This scent reminds me of the Sundays we spent baking together.”
- “The feel of this reminds me of the scarves you used to make for winter.”
- “This song brings back memories of family gatherings.”
Different smells, textures, and sounds can deepen your connection when words won’t do the trick. Every sensory detail helps bridge the communication gap and stimulates your loved one’s mind. This is key to a simple conversation!
Discussing Current Events
Engaging your loved one with discussions about current events provides a sense of inclusion. Begin with uplifting or positive news stories that are easy to grasp. You might say something such as:
- “I heard there’s a new park opening downtown with beautiful flowers. Would you like to visit one day?”
- “There’s a kind woman in the neighborhood who helps take care of abandoned animals. Isn’t that wonderful?”
- “The local bakery just won an award for their pies. Would you like to try them together sometime?”
These stories create an opportunity for pleasant, simple exchanges. They also encourage your loved one to participate in the community around them. It’s not about informing them—it’s about making them feel welcomed, treasured, and valued.
Sharing Personal Updates
Sharing updates about your life can be a comforting conversation starter. Talk to them about your day-to-day activities and involve them in your life. This openness helps affirm the important role they still play in your world. Try sharing things like:
- “I tried a new recipe today. It reminded me of the stew you used to make. Would you like me to bring some next time?”
- “I started gardening, and it has been so rewarding. Beautiful yellow flowers are blossoming; you’d love them.”
- “Work has been busy, but rewarding. I remember when you encouraged me to pursue this career, and I’m grateful.”
These interactions urge your loved one to engage with you and stay connected. It shows you value their input and are striving to keep them involved in your life. Remember, it’s the little things that make a meaningful relationship.
Staying Connected in Memory Care
Finding ways to strengthen your bond with a parent with dementia is essential. This can have a big impact on their overall well-being, and it’s key to helping them stay connected with the people they love. With these conversation topics, you’ll be off to a solid start.
Your loved one deserves a community that values them as the unique individual they are. And our team here at The Grande at Creve Coeur is here to help. Contact our team today to schedule a visit, and let our team show you how much we care.
